Scientists have found that the human brain is specifically adapted to function in society. Apparently, this was the result of natural selection, in which those whose brains were capable of interacting with the surrounding society were more likely to survive. Therefore, scientists advise: if you want to feel good, to feel happy and be in an environment conducive to your development, you need to maintain positive relationships with others and spend more time with friends and family.
Social alienation or communication that one is uncomfortable with is stressful for the body. Alienation usually comes from selfishness.
It is known that through healthy selfishness, the child learns the world, and the adult finds his place in life. What about unhealthy selfishness?
Selfishness is like an old woman’s desire at a broken trough: to lord it over the goldfish, i.e. – over all. If egoism takes hypertrophied forms, it manifests itself in conflicts on various levels, destroying the world with wars.
People protest the behavior of the selfish person in their environment, but this is not always possible. For example, the egoists in power know how to brutally suppress opposition.
The opposite of selfishness is altruism. Altruists are happy. It can be compared to the feeling when parents are happy for their children. To be happy is to feel that you bring pleasure to others, to make them happy.
It turns out that there is a ranking of countries by level of happiness. Basically, this rating determines the financial condition of citizens. But in Tibet there is the state of Bhutan, which differs from all countries by the fact that the measure of the quality of life in it is determined by gross national happiness. There is a Ministry of Happiness in the state! In Bhutan, moral and spiritual values come first, not material goods. The religion here is Buddhism, and people walk in their national dress.
More and more people today are in search of happiness. How do I find him?
The first is to discover that the person is selfish and that all his desires, actions, and thoughts are directed toward himself. Otherwise he feels miserable. With such a concept, the world will remain the same, if it remains the same at all. It is important to understand that in wishing happiness for oneself, one must develop a new quality: absolute concern for others. And to embrace the idea that it is worthwhile to wish happiness for others, that this intention, both in my thoughts and in my actions, is all with goodness.
Happiness will come by all means, if a person will do something for someone, will lovingly thank for every little thing. When care is feasible and sincere, it evokes a state of creativity, so it brings joy. Naturally, in order for everyone to achieve good things, you need to bring people together. And nature responds to any effort by making us suddenly feel more empowered, and even behave more intelligently, since everything in nature is interconnected.
People today spend a lot of energy for themselves. However, caring for others gives a person strength, happiness. The integral methodology also says that our actions create a field that responds in us with qualities similar to our actions.
This would be the real restructuring of man–to become altruistic for the good of all mankind. Then it will be easier for him to enter the world of good.
