“I need you… I can’t live without you… I respect you… You mean a lot to me…” – there are many such phrases.
But what is holding us back? Why are we so afraid of this word - love ? We do not want to open our heart, we are afraid of becoming vulnerable? Fear seizes us, and the tongue sticks to the sky, and we are no longer able to pronounce this word.
Perhaps the reason is our innate selfishness. We love ourselves the most.
But it's not only that. Most often, this restraint leads us to a harsh upbringing in the family. Parents mistakenly believe that excessive affection and love make us weak, vulnerable, or too spoiled. And this is a bitter delusion.
In kindergartens and schools, this word does not exist at all in the encouraging lexicon. And even more so in labor collectives.
It turns out that a person is deprived from his very birth until leaving this indifferent world. In addition, we replace love with care. We believe that by satisfying the needs of a person, we show love for him. We feed the hungry, give a glass of water to quench their thirst, offer lodging for the night, give advice, help with money ....
But all this is just a shell of love. In this feeling lies priceless wisdom, a deep inner essence, something spiritual.
In every family, the manifestation of feelings should be mandatory. But you need not only to feel love, but also to talk about it.
And we? How often do we tell our family and friends about love? Once a week, once a year for a birthday? Or do we not speak at all? We hesitate….
But we quite calmly use this word in conversations about other things: I love this film, book, song, clothes, dish ....
Words of love radically change our attitude to the world. We become bolder, more cheerful, more self-confident, more joyful, ready to do good deeds, to give good to people. Words of love give us strength, with them it is easier for us to cope with any obstacles.
It is always necessary to talk about love, because I love you - these are magic words.
People are waiting for these words. They miss them so much. They help resolve conflicts. Take the first step towards, say: "I love you!"
Call your mom just like that, for no reason, and tell her: "I love you, mommy." You will make her healthier!
Do not forget to ask the child about the affairs at school, add: "I love you so much!"
Leave a note on the refrigerator for your husband: "I love you, dear." You will give him wings for the whole day!
These three simple words paint our gray life in bright colors, motivate us, mobilize hidden resources.
Even doctors urge to talk about love more often, awakening phenylethylamine - the “molecule of love”, which causes emotional satisfaction, stabilizes pressure and all the most important processes in the body, even metabolism.
Let this become our habit. In nature, there are two forces - the force of attraction and the force of repulsion.
Words of love attract people, unite, enrich their emotions.
Learning to talk about love means building the right connection with the one you love. It helps to fill his desires to give him pleasure.
"Don't be afraid to say, 'I love you!'
To those who are dear to you forever!
After all, in this world we are not eternal, -
Always on the edge, on the edge ”(Evgenia Sharova)
Do not save on feelings! Speak words of love as often as possible! This will make your life more joyful, brighter, happier and more rosy.
It is truth….
It seems that the words about love were once deliberately removed from the daily vocabulary, and a new kind of person appeared who does not have warmth in communication. After all, not hearing in relation to oneself and not pronouncing these words to others, the heart closes.
In the words of the poet Yaroslav Smelyakov, “It’s not scary if they suddenly stop loving you, it’s much worse when you stop loving ...” This is the whole point: it’s difficult to understand yourself, it’s even more difficult to love another, so people don’t often say these words, except perhaps, children or children.
Not only do we not talk about love, we don’t really allow ourselves to love. To love means to bring out the BEST YOURSELF and BE THEM. But this is an unaffordable luxury - to be substituted like that. To love is to be dependent, and this in turn is your weak link ...
After all, modern life requires a frightening grin, a roar, always be in a position of readiness to repel aggression or apply it yourself ... And be invulnerable ...
Say it wrong? That's it, I would also like it not to be so ...
Opening the heart, instilling tenderness, love in it - this requires courage. We try to love, but it doesn't always work out. We don’t know how, we didn’t teach it either in the family or at school, and therefore attempts more and more often bring failure. And as a result - even more despondency and disbelief in one's own soul, in its purpose - to learn Love.
But to talk about it - yes, always please! This is easily…
EASILY…
Usual gratitude - and we love you ...
Attraction - and we love you again ...
Calculation - and again I love ...
Fraud - here, in general, God himself ordered ...
Revenge, envy, pride - and in the language of honey words about love.
Yes, and just sometimes - a fake-on-duty phrase, like a kiss on duty in passing ...
After all, they themselves devalued these words.
And if a feeling was born, then it’s so scary to frighten it off with cliched words ...
Thinking up synonyms. They are lighter...
LOVE is a spiritual impulse, care, attention, good action, responsibility.
Yes, yes, responsibility is a terrible word for today.
That's why my throat gnashes, trying to pronounce these magic words, if they are SERIOUS ...
Crazy fear of losing yourself, a loved one, to dissolve in another. Put the other above yourself. Subdue your egoism to this feeling ...
Then joy and flight will come, and the world will spin, and you will become what you never knew yourself ... And then these words are torn every minute: I love you, sunshine ... My beloved! ... Thank you for the love, for this magic ...
So the number one task is to TEACH YOURSELF TO LOVE.
And the words will come...