I wake up, the rays of the bright sun illuminating the room. The awakening must have come from the sounds coming from the kitchen. Father jokes about something, mother clinks the plates and bursts into her magical laughter. It smells delicious. I’m a little kid. I have a feeling of complete happiness.
Will it ever be so calm and good, so easy and carefree? Probably not.
Now, as we get older, you realize that the most important thing we can give our children is this feeling of happiness. The child knows that he is loved, cherished, that he has a mom and dad, he has favorite toys, and there is a future. Mom and dad love and respect each other and try to build a good, harmonious relationship with each other. Do you know what this is? And this is the institution of the family. The one where children learn kindness, learn to give, learn compassion and mutual help.
It is from such institutions that children go to adulthood protected and prepared for independent life.
The example of a kind, respectful and harmonious relationship between mom and dad is the foundation on which the child’s personality is built, a skeleton for the future construction of proper, good social relationships. It’s a shame that many parents don’t think about this.
In a loving atmosphere, a child can develop all of his or her potentials. As the sages said, “Train up the boy in his ways. And you just have to love your own child – not yourself in it, but his, so different from us, such a quiet or rebellious. To develop his interests and aspirations, not to impose your own, to help him make choices, not to make choices for him.
As it turns out, this is the hardest part – to cancel your I in front of the baby, to tame your “I know better,” just to treat him with respect. Yeah, we weren’t taught that, and our parents weren’t taught that, and neither were their parents. So what to do?
It turns out that we are forced to bring up a generation like us, who do not know how to treat each other nicely, who cannot build good, good connections, who are deaf to compassion and mutual help?
Dear parents, moms and dads, grandparents, let’s start educating ourselves, let’s learn what we want to teach our children!
And the children? And the children will still be like us.