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Remember that phrase, “Execution cannot be pardoned”? Depending on where the comma is, the meaning changes. I love her very much. The whole man is in it. Because only the individual makes that choice – to execute or to pardon. To be or not to be. Punish or exonerate.
She gave me the wrong look on the subway, and this one cut me off on the road, and this one didn’t answer my e-mail on time, and that one didn’t screw in the light bulb in the bathroom again. And blah, blah, blah… Constant complaints.
We live in a world of constant nagging at each other and are ecstatically drowning in a sea of emotion at how much splash we can make around us.
Admit it to yourself (just don’t tell anyone, of course) – you enjoy it. To be proven right, to make a logically constructed and verified claim, is such a pleasure! It’s an unbelievable thrill to feel smarter, more prudent, wiser, higher than the other! That is our nature.
But, as practice shows, to be right, perhaps, and brings material results, but here’s a good attitude of people to you nipped at the root. And this is fraught with great consequences.
Why? Yes, because the other person thinks he’s right, in charge, on top, just the same. He will never admit to losing and will never agree with him, that is, he will not agree with you.
As a result, we get two people who outwardly continue to somehow function side by side, but inwardly are completely distant from each other. So much so that at some point the connection between them finally breaks down and the proverbial “Arrivederci” sets in. It can happen instantly in my mind (I look at her back as contemptuously as she looks at me), or it can drag on for years (I divorced him over a light bulb in the toilet). But the outcome is always the same. Where people cannot agree, there comes collapse, stalemate, no development, no movement.
What I want to say. There is one very simple rule: Justify people as you would want them to justify you. Because we are all just human beings. With hormones, forgetfulness, mood swings, just bad days. And we have the right to be ourselves. Each of us.
Try it. You will see how much easier your life will become. How much easier you will treat situations, how quickly all problems will be solved, how much friendlier you will be treated by those around you. You will feel calmer.
Don’t take your word for it. Test it and see the results.
